- HOT LINE PHONE NUMBERS
- 508-285-2525 National Cancer Support for Animals
- 540-231-8038 Staffed by Virginia -Maryland Regional College of Veterinary.
- 250-389-8047 P.A.T.S. Pet Loss Support Line Greater BC The pet loss support lie is a service offered by the pacific Animal Therapy society and offers emotional support to anyone who has experienced or is anticipating the loss of a pet, for any reason . Hours 8:PAM to 9 PM. Pacific time. Long distance calls will be returned collect.
- 602-995-5885 Companion
- Animal Association of Arizona
- 561-901-4800 Beloved Buddies, Inc. Boca Raton Florida
- HELPING CHILDREN WITH THE LOSS OF THEIR PET
1. Giving the child permission to work through their grief.
- Tell their teacher about the pet's death.
- Encourage the child to talk freely about the pet.
- Give the child plenty of hugs and reassurance.
- Discuss death, dying and grief honestly.
2. NEVER say things like "God took your pet," or the pet was "put to sleep."
- The child will learn to fear that God will take them, their parents or their siblings.
- The child will become afraid of going to sleep.
3. Include the child in everything that is going on.
4. Explain the permanency of death.
A childs age determines the perpestive of how they will view the passing of a pet.
The death of a cherished pet creates a sense of loss for adults and produces a predictable chain of emotions. The stages of grief are typically denial, sadness, depression, guilt, anger, and, finally, relief (or recovery). However, the effects on children vary widely depending upon the child's age and maturity level. The basis for their reaction is their ability to understand death.
Two and Three Year Olds
Children who are two or three years old typically have no understanding of death.
They often consider it a form of sleep. They should be told that their pet has died and will not return. Common reactions to this include temporary loss of speech and generalized distress. The two or three year old should be reassured that the pet's failure to return is unrelated to anything the child may have said or done. Typically, a child in this age range will readily accept another pet in place of the dead one.
Four, Five, and Six-Year Olds
Children in this age range have some understanding of death but in a way that relates to a continued existence. The pet may be considered to be living underground while continuing to eat, breathe, and play.
Alternatively, it may be considered asleep. A return to life may be expected if the child views death as temporary. These children often feel that any anger they had for the pet may be responsible for its death. This view should be refuted because they may also translate this belief to the death of family members in the past.
Some children also see death as contagious and begin to fear that their own death (or that of others) is imminent. They should be reassured that their death is not likely. Manifestations of grief often take the form of disturbances in bladder and bowel control, eating, and sleeping. This is best managed by parent-child discussions that allow the child to express feelings and concerns. Several brief discussions are generally more productive than one or two prolonged sessions.
Seven, Eight, and Nine-Year Olds
The irreversibility of death becomes real to these children. They usually do not personalize death, thinking it cannot happen to them. However, some children may develop concerns about death of their parents. They may become very curious about death and its implications. Parents should be ready to respond frankly and honestly to questions that may arise. Several manifestations of grief may occur in these children, including the development of school problems, learning problems, antisocial behavior, hypochondriacal concerns, or aggression. Additionally, withdrawal, over attentiveness, or clinging behavior may be seen. Based on grief reactions to loss of parents or siblings, it is likely that the symptoms may not occur immediately but several weeks or months later.
Ten and Eleven Year Olds
Children in this age range generally understand death as natural, inevitable, and universal. Consequently, these children often react to death in a manner very similar to adults.
